tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post1479134420271486620..comments2023-04-02T14:35:23.882+01:00Comments on Mean Moody Middle-aged Mom: The LegacyMean Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-31758832523294703202008-12-12T12:25:00.000+00:002008-12-12T12:25:00.000+00:00I could write a book about my dysfunctional relati...I could write a book about my dysfunctional relatives, but it's probably best that I don't! <BR/><BR/>The sisters are OK with each other again. The youngest sister, who flounced out of the house, at the funeral, had to see her doctor, because she was 'falling apart'. She is a little better now. My aunt is very lonely. It is a very sad situation.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-86616488218892859902008-12-12T03:08:00.000+00:002008-12-12T03:08:00.000+00:00we are all so alike with our family dysfunctions. ...we are all so alike with our family dysfunctions. i wish your aunt all the best for this next phase of her life.scrappysuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04820776600535640590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-78274317863693606342008-11-18T08:44:00.000+00:002008-11-18T08:44:00.000+00:00rose - That's so sad, but we don't choose our bloo...rose - That's so sad, but we don't choose our blood relations. People coming from the same family can be so different from each other. There are plenty of unscrupulous people around and they are all related to someone. Avoidance is often the best policy, as some things just can't be excused!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-29759105509849298272008-11-18T04:40:00.000+00:002008-11-18T04:40:00.000+00:00You gave your aunt some very sound advice, Mean Mo...You gave your aunt some very sound advice, Mean Mom. What a sad story! I do hope she can find a way to be more independent and enjoy the rest of her life.<BR/><BR/>Up until this revelation, I could identify with some of the problems here. My husband's sister became manipulative when my mother-in-law became ill. He and his sister still do not speak to each other, ten years after his mother's death.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384059342847120951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-85113541512462365362008-11-16T20:22:00.000+00:002008-11-16T20:22:00.000+00:00jennysmith - You're very welcome! Yes, you never k...jennysmith - You're very welcome! Yes, you never know what goes on behind closed doors.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-58265719926139027812008-11-16T20:10:00.000+00:002008-11-16T20:10:00.000+00:00What a fascinating blog. Reminded me so much of m...What a fascinating blog. Reminded me so much of my mum's family. its amazing what families can do to each other. they can crush the life out of you.<BR/><BR/>was just "passing" - will visit again. Jenny smith xxJennysmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176560381292594341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-571737335859682072008-11-15T23:27:00.000+00:002008-11-15T23:27:00.000+00:00the boisterous butterfly - I didn't know the full ...the boisterous butterfly - I didn't know the full extent of her experiences (well, I'm sure that I still don't). I certainly didn't know that she had been mistreated at times by her aunt. She cared for her husband during his illness and still didn't have a kind word from him.<BR/><BR/>I will stay in contact with her. We would like to stay with her in the summer, but I'm not sure how that would go down with her youngest daughter, yet. We might have to stay close by, so as not to cause too much trouble.<BR/><BR/>Yes, you're right. Their father didn't set a good example, so it may not just be the problem of inherited characteristics.<BR/><BR/><BR/>suburbia - Oh, I know what you mean. We all enjoy a little moan. I haven't been able to tell my aunt's full story. There were some things I left out, because there was just too much to fit in. My aunt really is due some happiness.<BR/><BR/><BR/>maggie may - It is such a sad story, but I have left a couple of things out, so, in fact, it is worse than I have been able to convey. I may try and fit these things into another post, if I can think of a way to do it.<BR/><BR/>Yes, funerals do sometimes bring out the worst in people. Weddings can be a bit of flashpoint, too. They'd all been under a dreadful strain for such a long time, though. My uncle died a horrible death. Even he didn't deserve to suffer in that way and it was so awful for all of them.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-57676938008599452332008-11-15T23:23:00.000+00:002008-11-15T23:23:00.000+00:00Your poor auntie, here's hoping she enjoys the res...Your poor auntie, here's hoping she enjoys the rest of her lifeauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-52196630144156269562008-11-15T22:55:00.000+00:002008-11-15T22:55:00.000+00:00aims - I thought of you when my aunt was relating ...aims - I thought of you when my aunt was relating her story.<BR/><BR/>I will certainly stay in contact with her, now, instead of relying on my mother and aunt for news. Funny thing - I never realised how much I was 'put off' ringing her by her husband. He was charm itself to the rest of us, whenever we came into contact with him, but we knew a little of how he could be, in private. It just 'creeped us out'.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-37733607823855560862008-11-15T20:24:00.000+00:002008-11-15T20:24:00.000+00:00Mean mom....... I read the last two posts in one.T...Mean mom....... I read the last two posts in one.<BR/>That is a sad story and I do hope your Aunt can build up a life of her own and have some enjoyment in her old age.<BR/>It is dreadful the way that these possessive people can control some one like that.<BR/>I always think that funerals *can* bring the worst out in some relatives.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-29756171065935871712008-11-15T18:01:00.000+00:002008-11-15T18:01:00.000+00:00Poor aunt. And I moan about so much less! I do hop...Poor aunt. And I moan about so much less! I do hope she finds some happiness, she certainly deserves itSuburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-84243819591365613572008-11-15T17:38:00.000+00:002008-11-15T17:38:00.000+00:00I feel very sorry for your aunt and I hope she fin...I feel very sorry for your aunt and I hope she finally has the courage to stick up for herself and make a life of her own and make her own decisions. She's been in abusive relationships since she was a child and deserves something a heck of a lot better now. I hope you can somehow keep an eye on her, even though you are so far away. I know it isn't your responsibility, but still I would hate to see her life repeating in this way. Those kids probably picked up some odd habits during their childhood too, with a father like that.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-6679217013438489732008-11-15T17:23:00.000+00:002008-11-15T17:23:00.000+00:00Oh MM! I had to close my eyes and take a moment fo...Oh MM! I had to close my eyes and take a moment for myself when I read of your aunt's abuse.<BR/><BR/>First of all - bless you once more for taking the time and driving the distance to be with her. You and your husband are very special people.<BR/><BR/>I was somewhat relieved to see from your comments that she is starting to make a stand on her own. <BR/><BR/>I too hope that she can now find her own wings - dry them out - and fly on her own.<BR/><BR/>I hope you remain in contact with her. She's going to need a friend who doesn't push instead of what she calls her 'close family'.aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-69875981181653695962008-11-15T16:44:00.000+00:002008-11-15T16:44:00.000+00:00blogthatmama - Yes, she does. She has, during the...blogthatmama - Yes, she does. She has, during the past week, told both of her children that she doesn't intend to be pushed around by them, like she was by her husband. She seems to have things more under her control, now.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-71481588506131136382008-11-15T16:39:00.000+00:002008-11-15T16:39:00.000+00:00What a difficult time for your aunt, Mean Mom. Do...What a difficult time for your aunt, Mean Mom. Does she admit that she's been pushed around and is in danger of it continuing? I really hope she can now lead the life she wants.blogthatmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12584817207287233580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-32400443929405301802008-11-15T14:48:00.000+00:002008-11-15T14:48:00.000+00:00softinthehead - It is sad. She is quite determine...softinthehead - It is sad. She is quite determined, at the moment, to make some changes. It is unfortunate that she is stuck in a house, which is far too big for her and not convenient for any amenities. I hope that the housing market improves very soon.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-21649267781106706382008-11-15T14:31:00.000+00:002008-11-15T14:31:00.000+00:00What a sad story - hopefully you aunt is strong en...What a sad story - hopefully you aunt is strong enough to do all those things, although it may be difficult after a life of having someone else making all the running. Thanks for sharing.softintheheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365562754859033869noreply@blogger.com