tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post2937117781360100148..comments2023-04-02T14:35:23.882+01:00Comments on Mean Moody Middle-aged Mom: The Empty NestMean Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-77032653187721562872008-07-09T15:40:00.000+01:002008-07-09T15:40:00.000+01:00mid-lifer - It's sad, isn't it? Of course, I woul...mid-lifer - It's sad, isn't it? Of course, I would also complain if the baby stage lasted forever! <BR/><BR/><BR/>jules - Sorry about the tears! I am in the menopause, you know! Sad one minute, happy the next, angry the next. It's such fun!! Bet you can't wait, can you? Okay, bringing tissues.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-10628700660459272942008-07-08T20:11:00.000+01:002008-07-08T20:11:00.000+01:00Oh how sad. i too came expecting to smile.... and...Oh how sad. i too came expecting to smile.... and I did...... just before the tears.<BR/><BR/>They do grow so fast..... i need to go hug mine now.<BR/><BR/>On, and I almost forgot....... TAG..... you're it...... if you'd like.<BR/><BR/>Come and visit. And please bring hankies because I've just used all of mine up. :}Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04806397014770044851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-63504450792515426892008-07-08T09:13:00.000+01:002008-07-08T09:13:00.000+01:00Oh stop!!!! My kids are getting to the stage when ...Oh stop!!!! My kids are getting to the stage when they don't like to do stuff with me. I'm already casting back to times when they were little or forward to the future when I'll be devastated by their absence.<BR/><BR/>Beautifully written and described MM<BR/>xxMid-liferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18259190343085788311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-28122553000601497922008-07-06T18:53:00.000+01:002008-07-06T18:53:00.000+01:00merry weather - PS I'm so relieved that you like m...merry weather - PS I'm so relieved that you like my miniatures! Miniatures are just fascinating, aren't they? Glad you like the music!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-73315866217513893432008-07-06T18:50:00.000+01:002008-07-06T18:50:00.000+01:00a mother's place - I wonder whether it is as much ...a mother's place - I wonder whether it is as much to do with menopause, as with my children being grown up? I find myself wistfully looking at babies in pushchairs, as I shop in the supermarket. I can't help but wonder whether it's something to do with hormones.<BR/><BR/><BR/>merry weather - Yes, having a young family seemed as if it would go on forever and then, suddenly, it was all over. It was stressful, though, and not very enjoyable, at times. Looking back, I wish that I had been able to relax and appreciate it more than I actually did. I loved having them as youngsters, but I also worried a lot.<BR/><BR/><BR/>bollinger byrd - Yes, I know what you mean. I feel very proud, on the rare occasions that we all go out together, to be the mother of my 3 adult sons. They are all taking their place within our society and shouldering responsibility etc. It pleases me to see what they have grown into, but I still miss those little boys, at times!!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-311334843842687102008-07-06T18:05:00.000+01:002008-07-06T18:05:00.000+01:00They go away but then you get unexpected visits , ...They go away but then you get unexpected visits , like this weekend when my eldest came to stay, and we had a Sunday lunch together. Whilst the youngest is in Blackpool for the weekend with two friends. His first overnight stay in a hotel without his family.<BR/><BR/>It's like them being babies I didn't want them ever to change and now I just love watching them grow and develop.<BR/><BR/>What you don't loose is the love... that bit stays. You will always be they're Mum.Fire Byrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477692359400671374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-19512545850257246062008-07-06T12:14:00.000+01:002008-07-06T12:14:00.000+01:00What a wistful post! It's good for someone like me...What a wistful post! It's good for someone like me with young kids, to be reminded that this time is precious, short-lived...<BR/><BR/>I LOVE your dolls houses!! How marvellous, so much detail - it's a little fantasy world. The tiny glasses, the knitting, the cup of tea! - Beautiful MM :)<BR/><BR/>(I find it hard to leave your page you know, can't stop listening to the music!)merry weatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15790847146645006254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-17984615632873348322008-07-05T21:56:00.000+01:002008-07-05T21:56:00.000+01:00Dear Mean Mom - you are so not mean! I do feel for...Dear Mean Mom - you are so not mean! I do feel for you, and know exactly how it is. Those are sweet moments we can never have again, but they do live on in our memories, at least. M xxA Mother's Place is in the Wronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12383766405951386903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-89583574705835543362008-07-04T17:06:00.000+01:002008-07-04T17:06:00.000+01:00Suburbia - Oooh thanks! Coming over!Suburbia - Oooh thanks! Coming over!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-21122910033519593222008-07-03T23:17:00.000+01:002008-07-03T23:17:00.000+01:00There's an award for you at mine, come over when y...There's an award for you at mine, come over when you have time!Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-71489703268444381582008-06-30T18:33:00.000+01:002008-06-30T18:33:00.000+01:00the mother - Sorry! I'm a bit unpredictable, some...the mother - Sorry! I'm a bit unpredictable, sometimes. This post had been coming on for a few months. Here's a tissue. I've just made some tea. Would you like a cup? I'll try and think of something cheerful for my next post - promise!!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-79074071570095358202008-06-30T13:39:00.000+01:002008-06-30T13:39:00.000+01:00Came here expecting to be cheered up, not depresse...Came here expecting to be cheered up, not depressed!!<BR/><BR/>You'd better get the kettle on and try and talk me round a bit. I don't want to be crying when the kids come home from school!the mother of this lothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04173598381711792094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-17648904658448029022008-06-30T00:43:00.000+01:002008-06-30T00:43:00.000+01:00rose - You are so right, of course. I think that ...rose - You are so right, of course. I think that I've been graceful in letting go, so far, anyway. It's hard to get the right balance, sometimes. I hope for grandchildren, eventually, but I was 30, when I had my eldest son. I hope that I'm not too old to enjoy them, if I ever have any!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-64331510469894311042008-06-30T00:31:00.000+01:002008-06-30T00:31:00.000+01:00This was a lovely, bittersweet post. My children ...This was a lovely, bittersweet post. My children are all grown and, except for the youngest, have moved out. I miss those innocent days of their childhood, but like you I was so busy at times it was hard to appreciate each moment. <BR/>But they do come back, and now I have grandchildren who love to come visit "Grandma." So much of being a mother is learning how to let go...but it's hard.<BR/><BR/>Glad you are feeling better.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384059342847120951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-26571159370561607632008-06-30T00:26:00.000+01:002008-06-30T00:26:00.000+01:00blogthatmama - Ah! Hope that was a good cuddle!ma...blogthatmama - Ah! Hope that was a good cuddle!<BR/><BR/><BR/>maggie may - I have always welcomed girlfriends and I've never had to force myself, fortunately, it just came naturally. Wish my mother-in-law had been the same, with me!<BR/><BR/>I do hope that my family gets bigger. They can't even afford houses, at the moment, though!<BR/><BR/><BR/>auntiegwen - Yes, I know exactly what you mean. The toddler stage, in particular, was wonderful. Not all of the time, of course. The tantrums weren't much fun, but the rest of it was great.<BR/><BR/><BR/>liz - They'd better not forget it, either! Oooh, an award! How did I miss that, then? I've been over just recently.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-86866515332747579042008-06-29T21:58:00.000+01:002008-06-29T21:58:00.000+01:00Not really lost though. You're the bedrock, the re...Not really lost though. You're the bedrock, the refuge, the safety net that allows them to explore and become themselves. They'll never forget that.<BR/><BR/>I have an award for you over at my place.Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-61451276369323731672008-06-29T20:10:00.000+01:002008-06-29T20:10:00.000+01:00Mine still live with me too and are still all at s...Mine still live with me too and are still all at school but I still miss the baby versions of them. <BR/><BR/>I really do treasure them and I know I will ache for them when they do leave meauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-69409967785211334762008-06-29T19:59:00.000+01:002008-06-29T19:59:00.000+01:00That was a very poignant post. I do understand how...That was a very poignant post. I do understand how you came to that realization. Hope that they all eventually settle with really nice girls who warm to you and are not threatened or jealous of you. You will have grandchildren, most likely who hopefully will race in the woods with you! Every thing in life seems to be a mixture of happiness & sadness. Nothing stays the same.<BR/>Good post. lovely photos.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-66630250137578833732008-06-29T19:38:00.000+01:002008-06-29T19:38:00.000+01:00Mom, you've given me hope! You've also made me a ...Mom, you've given me hope! You've also made me a bit sad, am switching off the computer and heading straight for the sofa now to sit between them and watch the Euro 2008 cup final and give them both a cuddleblogthatmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12584817207287233580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-47601045508924058962008-06-28T22:49:00.000+01:002008-06-28T22:49:00.000+01:00suburbia - This post has been forming in my mind, ...suburbia - This post has been forming in my mind, since the spring. Our lads are still living with us, of course, most of the time, but we really miss going out with them, as a family. We enjoyed having them as youngsters, naturally, but it was, sometimes, such terribly hard work, that the fun of it got a bit lost, somewhere! They did fight a lot, it is true, and I don't miss that part of it, at all! So, yes, try and make the most of it, whilst you can!Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3793153250817873634.post-49043186671680319482008-06-28T21:55:00.000+01:002008-06-28T21:55:00.000+01:00That's so sad. It reminds me to make the most of m...That's so sad. It reminds me to make the most of mine while I can, so thanks for that.<BR/><BR/>We are constantly looking forward to their next achievement or milestone, it goes so quickly without us noticing.<BR/><BR/>The good thing is that you did those things, had good times and so have brilliant memories.<BR/>One day you may do it again with your grandchildren, fingers crossed.<BR/><BR/>In the meantime try to remember the times when they fought each other and drove you mad...then savour the relative peace!!Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.com